After introduction of young Ambassadors program and intensive courses in partnering workshop, active listening, exploring our map of the world, simulation a Europe based on trust or mis-trust?, Adaptive leadership in dynamic, complex world, exploring the role of narrative in trust building (human library), a practical vision for Europe 1-2-3, and Young ambassadors focus_ AEUB Intention.
This is the how the openings plenaries passed:
-What a challenge today
-Building cohesion in Europe: key initiatives
-The Role of personal initiative for a cohesive Europe
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In these times of great uncertainty and growing distrust between and within countries, there is no place for fatalism. We all have a role to play in steering Europe in a more inclusive and sustainable direction. This was the common message at today’s opening of the conference on Addressing Europe’s Unfinished Business (AEUB). Over 180 participants from 32 countries have gathered in the Caux Palace in Switzerland to seek dialogue, exchange best practices for trustbuilding and find inspiration. ´We have no alternative but to engage in a constructive dialogue,said Tatiana Peric, adviser on Combating Racism and Xenophobia for the Organization for Security and Cooperation in Europe. We are entering a period of powershifts, stressed British diplomat and politician Lord Ashdown. ‘The work for a better world is part of the equation for our survival. Don’t leave it to somebody else.’ An inspiring and motivating start to the AEUB!
Community group quit reflectionCourageous individuals can and do make a difference, as personal stories from Ukraine, Sweden and Turkey showed on day two of the AEUB conference. Journalist Oleksiy Matsuka from Ukraine had been forced to move outside the separatist region, because of threats related to his work on corruption. ‘There is not a journalist in Donbass whose life didn’t change in 2014,’ he said. Through the Donetsk Institute for Information, he provides independent coverage of the war in East Ukraine. ‘We as journalists must not only present facts, but also ask the uncomfortable questions. The most important way to find answers is doubt.’Former neo-nazi Peter Sundin from Sweden stressed the importance of distinguishing between people and their opinions. Growing up in a Nazi environment, he automatically adopted a Nazi worldview. ‘At school I was reduced to my opinion,’ he said. ‘I was always Nazi-Peter. Never just Peter.’ After a long exit-process, he now works to help prevent youngsters committing the same mistakes as he did.Professor Emel Topcu from Turkey presented heart-warming examples of how civil society is working to help the over 3.5 million Syrian refugees now in Turkey. Her hometown Gaziantep flooded with refugees, who now make up a quarter of the population. Although their arrival led to controversies, there has not been an actual clash, thanks to the work of many citizens and NGOs. ‘What is the meaning of life, if we don’t share?’ she asked.
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Looking ahead to the challenges Europe faces, it is good to realize that there are already so many initiatives taking place to build social cohesion. What can we learn from them? On the third day of AEUB the great hall of the Caux Palace was transformed into a marketplace of 18 initiatives, varying from faith communities working together for sustainability to using theatre to stimulate empathy and change. An Ukranian human rights worker sat at the table of a Dutch Turk who brings the Turkish, Armenian and Kurdish diaspora together, curious about how he facilitates dialogue between them. Other participants asked a Romanian women living in Germany about the impact of the simulation game she uses to address immigration policy. A vibrant exchange of tools, knowledge and experiences forms the core of this conference, and continues through the daily training tracks, during lunchtime and on walks up the mountain.
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Change often starts with the decisions of individuals: the decision to question their beliefs and the worldview with which they grew up; the decision not to feed their hatred, but to find a way to keep their humanity; and sometimes the decision to accept that one stands empty-handed and cannot control everything. On the morning of the fourth day of AEUB, different people told how such decisions could change the course of one’s life and influence the social cohesion of the community.
Diana Damsa, a Romanian who grew up feeling superior to her Roma countrymen, was confronted with her prejudices whilst in India. She felt angry that she had been manipulated to despise Roma for no reason. She made sure that in her future work, teaming up with Roma became a normality. Simona Torotcoi, a Roma from Romania, had always felt ashamed of being a Roma. In her early twenties, she started a personal process of fully accepting her identity. She now works for the emancipation of Roma in society and the educational system.
Two days after her father had been killed by an IRA bomb; Jo Berry from the United Kingdom decided she did not want to have an enemy. ‘I wanted to understand what happened and what the roots of violence are,’ she said. ‘If I blame someone and make him less human, then I lose my own humanity.’ She and the man responsible for the attack now work together, building bridges for peace.
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Even more then safe spaces, we need courageous spaces, key-listener Mike Brown from Australia says at the closing plenary of the AEUB conference. As participants describe their experiences, it becomes clear that Caux has been a space of courage this week. A Russian educational worker describes a meeting with people from Ukraine and Belarus. ‘It was not a bubble of coherence,’ he says. ‘I encountered the tremendous amount of pain here.’ Another participant tells how she has written a letter of apology to her father for closing her heart. A Dutch Turk brings good news about the week’s dialogue between Kurds, Turks and Armenians: ‘We have decided to organize ourselves and want to develop a programme.’ All these steps, from the personal to the political, are needed if we want to strengthen social cohesion in Europe. or as one participant read from her notebook: ‘If you heal yourself, you can heal the world with small babysteps.’
Trust building in a diverse world: History, Identity & Equity
Starting with yourself-becoming an authentic leader
Trust is social capital.
Without trust, we cannot take the most urgent need.
The biggest challenge are not technical; the require adaptive change: learning new attitudes, new relationships, and new behavior: trust.
Personal authenticity provides energy & sustainability for constructive community change. Failure to root social justice efforts in a strong inner like & lived-out values can endanger the most idealistic efforts
(Allah/God does not change a people’s condition until they change what is in themselves) Quran
(We need to be personally responsible and socially just) Jim walls
2-Healing History-the power of story
3_ engaging everyone in honest conversation
4_ Finding Allies building a team
Effective trust building is the product of intentional & constant focus on developing authentic partnerships & networks.
• This draws on all the values & skills explored in this training
When you think about trust what comes to mind
When you think about building trust and social
Everyone on table
• Living as trust builders means going
Toward those whose worldview is different from our own and who challenge our assumptions; people who irritate us, even people whose very presence threatens our sense of comfort and security.
Debate & Dialogue
Assuming there is a right answer & you have it
• Assuming many people have pieces of the
Answer & that together they craft a new solution
• Listening to find flaws & make counter argument
• Listening to understand & find meaning
• Seeking a conclusion that confirms your position
• Discovering new options, not seeking closure
Basic assumptions for dialogue
• Includes everyone; excludes no-one
• Focuses on working toward a solution, not on identifying enemies
• Affirms the best in people rather than confirms the worst
• Looks for what is right not who is right
• Moves us beyond blame & personal pain to constructive action Initiatives Honest conversation
• A learning process, a journey
• All voices – even those difficult to hear
• Personal experience & data
• Both sides may be invested in the status quo
Designing the Arc of a Dialogue
• Phase 1: Introduction
Purpose, Intended Outcome(s); Principles for Engagement; Ice-Breakers/Community Building
• Phase 2: Exploring Our (Diverse) Experiences Experience Questions – Personal Story Telling
• Phase 3: Exploring the Underlying Conditions that Create Our Diverse Experiences and Perspectives Exploratory Questions & Synthesis of Ideas
• Phase 4: What Might We Do with What We Have Learned?
Next steps and closing
Role of a facilitator
Creating a container
• Observation, interpretation, intervention
• Move group from status quo into the learning zone
• Give the work back to the group
• Be a non-anxious presence
• There is no road map
• Facilitation is a life discipline not a technique
Creating a dialogue
• Think about the community issue that you have identified.
• Create three questions that might invite honest conversation
Finding allies, building the team
• Individuals committed to a common purpose, goals and approach for which they hold themselves mutually accountable
A good question is…
• Nonjudgmental (engages people, does not shut them down)
• Doesn’t assume a “correct” response
Discovering your team – Engaging Hard-to-reach people
• Think about people in your team or workplace as well as people in the wider community
• People who can provide knowledge, skills, connections, credibility, funding.